But I really do think that these two topics -- Vanity and Social Media -- go hand in hand. Most of us aren't promoting a company or a business or an "identity" on Facebook or Twitter...we're just promoting ourselves. We like the feedback. We enjoy the interaction and the positive reinforcement we get from our hundreds of friends/follower (and we call social media stupid when the response is negative).
Look, I'm definitely not judging. I'm guilty of this 100%. I've touched on this before and said I'd blog about it someday, so I guess now is as good a time as any.
I struggle a lot with vanity.
I always have and it's gotten me into trouble. Luckily, I have friends and a husband who love me regardless.
No, I'm not talking about the GPOYs (Gratuitous Photo of Yourself), even though I recognize how obnoxious those can be. I'm talking about really getting into a cycle of not only loving the validation, but seeking it out from places I shouldn't. You know what makes that a whole lot easier? Social media.
Social media = vanity = social media. That's math, fools. MATH WITH WORDS.
Recently I deleted a Tumblr account and then started up a nice, shiny new one. Why? Because I realized at one point that Tumblr was where I went to be "secret." It's a place that most people in my everyday life didn't know I even had. It was the same name as my Twitter handle and Instagram account name, so it's not like it was the Fort Knox of social media sites, but I didn't advertise it. I said and posted things there that I wouldn't necessarily want my friends, family or husband to see. Even friends on Facebook or Twitter...it's easy to go private/direct messages and "harmlessly" say things or give compliments.
And it's a dangerous road. Trust me. It felt good to feel validated. But hell, even drugs feel good at first! Then you get to the long-term effects, and it becomes a hot damn mess.
(Did I just compare social media to drugs? Whatever, I stand by it.)
The point I'm trying to make is that I recognize my vanity. I recognize my love for social media. I've been honest with myself and with my husband and with some close friends about the struggles I have sometimes. It's all about finding a balance and controlling it.
Now I try to live a life -- online and offline -- in which, if at any moment my husband or my Mom or Dad could look in and see what I'm saying/doing/writing/typing/texting, they would think it was fine...even if it was a little "too Mandy" for them. (This is where I would put a smiley face emoticon.)
Because social media can be awesome for support...
....but it needs to be positive, above-the-line support that is building me up in a good way...not in the self-destructive, vain way that only provides temporary pleasure/contentment.